According to society, by the age of 30, I should have been married with at least two kids a long time ago. I should be living in my beautiful home in a gated community with my handsome husband and 2.5 kids, all while killing it in my career and being a girl boss!
Well that just isn’t my reality.
30 came and left and I have not met any of societies standards.
Not living in a gated community…
But I have a pretty great, screened patio! Whoop, Whoop!
Haven’t born any children yet…
I have 3 nephews and tiny little cousins galore so baby fever is nowhere in sight!
Still not married yet…
But my handsome invisible husband-to-be and God are working on it….I think.
My job pays the bills and I’m in grad school now gaining
(student loans, Lord help!) the necessary tools to one day actually be excited to get up and go to work!
So no…I am not where society expects me to be and it took me a long time to be okay with that.
I’m not one who deals with a lot of peer pressure. If I don’t want to do something, nothing you say can make me do it. My pressure has always been and always is internal. I pressure my own self.
My twenties were spent striving, trying to catch up, trying to feel accomplished by getting my degree, a good job and relationship. But getting those things still left me feeling discontent.
We pressure ourselves and allow society to make us think that acquiring these things will bring us contentment.
I can’t count the number of married people I know that are discontent even after saying “I do.”
Or those college grads who have the degree and close to six-figure job and aren’t happy being alone.
Once I discovered what the heck I was created for and what my purpose is on this Earth, everything shifted for me.
I am happy where I am right now because I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that this is where I’m supposed to be.
Am I over school? Soooo over it.
Would I love a pair of warm hairy thighs to curl up to?
Am I ready to be in my career and have those extra zeros added to my check?
Um yes. Please and thank you!
But is it worth trying to make things happen just to look like I’ve arrived?
Love yourself enough to give yourself a break!
You may not be where society deems you should be but thank God you are where you’re meant to be this very second.
Now by no means do I mean just patty cake through life in the name of not living under pressure.
Have goals and aim high but decide today that you won’t let pressure be your motivating force.
I’d love to hear from you. How do you deal with pressures from society? Have you ever felt like you were running behind? Please comment, share and like this post.