I have a confession to make.
I’m a Christian but I like trap music.
Probably has to do with the fact that I grew up during the birth of 90’s rap music like 2Pac, Biggie, Hot Boyz lol (so telling my age here) and later Jay and Nas which later evolved into what millennials dub trap music & stripper music: Young Jeezy, Lil John, 2 Chainz, & Rick Ross. (Stick with me. I promise I’m going somewhere with this).
There was a song they use to play freshman year of college at one of the frat parties. When this song came on, you knew that if you were not in a sorority/fraternity…run for cover lol.
“Who You Wit? Who You Wit? Who You Wit? Get crunk! Who You Wit?”
Out of nowhere these fraternities would party walk in formation, not caring what innocent bystanders were in their way; they were making a stand for solidarity showing us, just indeed, who they were with.
Who you’re with and more importantly, who is with you matters when it comes to self-care.
Surrounding yourself with people who have positive energy, who are uplifting & encouraging, ambitious and optimistic about the future can help your mental health in ways you wouldn’t even imagine.
I personally have a great tribe of women who are always encouraging me through their concern for me and through their actions.
There’s the woman who at almost 50 decided to go back to school and is on the dean’s list for making straight A’s
meanwhile I have to pray to the Lord to just help me pass the class.
Or young women like my cousin who refused to be low-balled and kept believing God for the salary she felt she deserved. Even when she saw people less qualified excel and advanced past her, even when her own insecurities tried to make her believe she didn’t deserve the position, she never gave up! Now her hard work and determination paid off; she has the corner office and the position she deserves.
There’s the international superstar singer who rocks the stage every week in front of celebrities and wealthy businessmen, but also faithfully rocks her job as a mommy of twins and a teen. How she does it? I have no clue, but she inspires me.
Or the almost fifty-fine lady who decided to step out in faith and leave her job she had been at for over a decade, because she felt there was something more for her to do. Her boldness to step out of her comfort zone, caused God to bless her with an amazing position and an even more amazing increase in her salary. Can you say cha-ching?
Through blogging I have made connections with some of the most beautifully spirited women I have ever met…or not yet met lol. These ladies will message me if I’m missing in action, they repost and comment on my blogs, they encourage me through sharing their own struggles and triumphs. Ladies like Mellie, Stacey & Sid just to name a few.
This year, I have consciously made the decision to choose to have people around me who I know are with me!
I may not talk to them every day or see them all the time but they are necessary for Christine to take care of Christine. Without these ladies I would be here writing all these lovely post…probably from the inside of a lovely, white, padded-leather room.
Love yourself enough to surround yourself with people who care about you. People who will push and challenge you.
Don’t surround yourself with people who always agree with you; you’ll never grow that way. Love yourself enough to allow those that are around you to help stretch you.
You don’t get to choose your family but you do get to choose your friends.
Read my previous post about Self-care Pt.1: Take A Chill Pill here
I’d love to hear from you! Have you given yourself the proper self-care by surrounding yourself with people who are with you? Please comment or email and share this post.