What is it about the word ‘no’ that makes people’s hearts drop a little?
We don’t like the word ‘no’ and some of us have a hard time telling ourselves ‘no’.
Why can’t I just eat that extra slice of chocolate cake although I’m working on eating healthier?
Why can’t I buy that purse although it’s definitely not in my budget this month?
We need to learn how to say ‘no’ to what we want sometimes because the immediate reward of having it now isn’t worth missing out on the greater reward we could have later.
If we’re all honest, we would all like to have our rewards now.
If we could have 100 clients now and not have to slowly build a network or client base over the next few years, we’d take it.
If we could have 10,000 followers on Instagram today, we’d love that and some people even go as far as buying social media followers (yes this is an actual thing).
We like to take shortcuts to our dreams instead of allowing the journey to mold us into who our dream needs us to be.
A few years ago, I was offered a position with 2 corner offices in two different cities and a very impressive starting salary, all moving costs paid. At the time, the offered salary was looking AMAZING to me since up until then, all I had received, was an hourly retail paycheck. But I was in my last semester of school, I would have to relocate in a few weeks and I just had this nagging feeling like this wasn’t the right timing.
If I gave in to what self was saying, “Girl don’t be stupid this is the opportunity of a lifetime! You have never been paid this much EVER…and all this without a degree?!?! Take it!”
If I listened to me…
A few months later I would have been laid off because both campuses got closed shortly after.
Yup. I would have been all alone in tumbleweed Texas, jobless and honestly, I probably would not have come back home to do my walk of shame because now my pride would come into play. So, just imagine that. I’d be spending years and years trying to make something happen that God hadn’t planned for me anyway, just because I couldn’t say ‘no’ to instant success.
Neil Patel explains it this way: Instant gratification is the desire to experience pleasure or fulfillment without delay or deferment. Basically, it’s when you want it; and you want it now. (Patel, 2014)
There is no such thing as overnight success; we all have to go through the process and do the hard work required.
By saying ‘no’ to the instant gratification of that job offer, I not only avoiding being unemployed and alone, but I finished my degree and today my salary is much higher than what they were offering.
By saying ‘no’, my character was strengthened and built to be able to handle the position I’m in now.
By saying ‘no’, I was able to meet key individuals along my journey that helped me discover my purpose.
By saying ‘no’, I was able to go through my journey and become who God was calling me to be. But none of this was instant; I had to go through the process and the reward has been so much greater.
So ask yourself this: What reward are you forfeiting by not saying no?
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